Well, we made our Christmas visit. At Christmas dinner, the conversation turned to diabetes. I found out some interesting things about the medical history of my husband's extended family. Apparently some of his first cousins have diabetes now, and we found out one of his aunts (who lived to 90) had diabetes for a lot of her life.
We also found out that Bil is, as my mil put it, is "borderline diabetic". Exactly what does that mean? Who knows.
Other than the "gee thanks for telling us" (what does she expect if something happens to her and we don't know things? Why do things have to be such a secret?) I was already having some worries over Bil's health. He has a weight problem. He never exercises and mil never encouraged him to. I won't say more, as I don't wish to disclose much medical info online.
One thing I will give mil credit for, she does make Bil eat healthy. I know food issues are common among those with autism. She cooks good meals for him and makes him, as we used to say in the old days "eat his vegetables." Left to his own devices, he would eat nothing but chicken.
I'd really like to know what is going on, what his blood work looks like. When mil is gone we will have to help Bil manage his health conditions. It would nice to know what they are, so we can try to prepare ourselves.
Again: why the secrecy? I know she's afraid to give up control, but Bil is going to pay the price when she is gone, or incapacitated.