Earlier, I had written about the NY Sibling Survey posted online by Cornell University.
Today, my husband and I took it - he answered it and I input it.
In all honesty- will it make a difference?
Realistically, I don't think so. But first, a comment:
It would have been nice if some of the questions had space for explanation.
For example - how often do you talk to your siblbing?
Well, it isn't too often because Bil is very reluctant to use the phone. His brothers only talk to Bil if they are visiting in person, and both of his brothers live out of town. But saying "less than once a month" implies we the siblings don't care. That is very far from the truth.
There also seemed to be an emphasis on training. Questions like: what kind of training do you need?
Siblings don't need training as much as they need help! Physical help. Not just referrals or education. Aging parents who don't want to let go of their caregiving responsibilities need help big time! Training isn't going to give siblings and aging parents the help they need.
Apparently we will be trained to death but won't get the help we need.
What help is that? Let's start with appropriate housing for our siblings, and go from there.
Oh well. I didn't have high expectations.