Friday, October 7, 2016

Starting Over Again #FridayReflections

Forgive me, but it has been over two years since I last posted.

I've been hiding.  Yes, I took this blog private, removed it from the Google Bloglist, and made it invisible to search engines.

Why?

Because family members read "my other blog".  Yes, I have another blog, one where I don't talk that much about autism (although I should).  Various family members read that blog.

They don't know about this blog.

But so much has happened in the over two years since I last posted.  Bil doesn't live hours from us but, rather, he lives minutes away - still with his mother.  And I don't want to hide any more.

Instead, I want to harness the power of blogging.

My husband's brother is not a young man or woman.  Bil, as I call him in this blog, is in his 50's.  I've been in his life a long time.   I know that one day (we hope it won't be for years, but life is unpredictable) the mother who has been his shield, his interpreter, and his caregiver, will no longer be able to care for him. 

It happened last year, for several weeks, after my mother in law had surgery, and suffered complications. How he reacted has given us a glimpse into the type of future Bil may want. 

We continue to learn.  And I forgot how much I can learn by continuing to blog about all aspects of my life, including the aspect of having an in law with autism.

So I need to continue this story, the story of Bil, my husband, and me.  Warts and all.  Rants and all.

Perhaps, I will make connections with people in similar situations.  That is my hope, anyway.

I also know that increasing numbers of individuals with autism are entering adulthood, and, more than ever, I feel that I have something to offer these families.  I can't do that in hiding.

I don't know how often I will post, but I promise it will be more frequent than once every two years.

If you like what you see, please join me on this continuing journey.

 Linking this with #FridayReflections

4 comments:

  1. I so connect with you as I have someone very close to me . Autism in its adulthood speaks volumes, the need is to stay , understand and respond. Thank you!

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  2. I'm so glad you got this blog going again. It's important to tell BILs story from your perspective too. I've shared it on Twitter without tagging you. I'd be glad to read your posts here and share them too.

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    1. I would love that, Corinne (both the twitter and sharing my posts without revealing my identity). Thank you.

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