It seems that close relatives to my mother in law are going to be moving to Florida in the next few months. I don't know if it is on a snowbird basis yet, or if it will be permanent.
I know my mil has thought on and off about moving to Florida. Each winter is harder and harder on her.
But Bil is deathly afraid of lightening, heavy rain, and hurricanes. He practically lives on the Weather Channel.
Which means that if my mother in law moved, Bil would not want to go.
And I don't think she would move to Florida if he wouldn't go.
It sure would be interesting if, at that point, she decided Bil should live with us. Because, if I have anything to do with it, that will never happen. I truly think Bil needs to live apart from us, in some other housing situation, in order to reach full adulthood. In his 50's, he still hasn't achieved that.
And, we have a right to our own lives too. Just because my mother in law never made any plans, never spoke to us frankly about what she expected, just "assumed".
And the sad but sorry truth is that the housing options available to him will be limited. Even if I advocated like hell.
Still, I would want my mother in law to be able to move.
She deserves it. She's more than put in her time.
It's past time for Bil to gain independence.