We got tired of trying to interact with all the government agencies that are supposed to be helping Bil and my mother in law.
We hired a geriatric case manager. It wasn't cheap, but it was worth it. She assessed my mother in law yesterday, with Bil present. (I will write more about Bil's behavior during that assessment this weekend.)
My mother in law made excuses. I can't do this because....I don't want to try, because....but this person had a comeback for every one (some funny, some compassionate) and she did this in such a way that my mother in law immediately bonded with her.
It's all in knowing how to communicate. This woman could communicate with my mother in law in a way that none of us know how. We need to learn this skill.
The arguments she uses with us didn't work with this skilled woman, who has been doing this type of work for years.
The assessment is: my mother nedsto move. She needs to regain whatever strength she can. She needs to socialize more. There will be ways to do both at the same time.
I think we are going to FINALLY start to make some progress, all because of a skilled communicator.
And, as a plus, she is going to help with Bil's situation. Not just my mother in law's. She is going to make some phone calls.
I hope they get returned.