"Bil" is verbal (not everyone with autism talks) but is a man of few words. You have to ask him direct questions, and you have to be careful about how you describe something. Bil takes everything literally. Many times, you don't know what he wants unless you know exactly how to ask.
And he resists anything new, or a change in his routine.
For example, Bil was recently deemed eligible for a program called "Community Hab". In this program, he goes out one-on-one with a person, doing things he wants to do (like shopping, something he enjoys), but at the same time the community hab person is supposed to work on skills to make him more independent. Bil had a big say in the skills he wanted to develop. He also got to choose if he wanted a man or a woman (he wanted a woman) to work with him.
But, as I mentioned, Bil also doesn't do well with new situations. This can be like working a puzzle blindfolded. And what if the puzzle pieces move around unexpected? Or if the puzzle changes in the middle of working it? Life is like that.
Well, when he met with the person who agreed to work with him, Bil didn't want to work on anything! One thing after another was suggested, with Bil turning it down.
The provider had to work on something, so Bil, finally, grudgingly decided to work on a couple of simple skills.
We decided to start him one day a week (he was eligible for up to three days a week) with the provider so that his routine wasn't that disrupted.
Within a couple of sessions, Bil had upped his Community Hab visits to twice a week, dropping a day from another program he was already attending (and which he loved). He loved his one on one time time even more.
Sometimes, we get to place a piece in the puzzle, or at least understand its shape and size.
Writing for #FridayReflections. The prompt: "Write about putting together the pieces of a puzzle."