You don't have to have autism to feel, sometimes, that social interaction is like a gigantic minefield.
I sometimes feel like that-a lot. I'm introverted, and sometimes I would just rather be by myself.
Bil, though, takes it to an extreme. I guess that goes without saying for anyone with autism.
Recently, though, I read a blog post that seems to say it all. With funny pictures. If you explore her blog, it will be time well spent.
I do keep thinking of the last time we were together with Bil (almost a month ago! time flies-but we will be seeing him again in about a week, everyone's schedules willing) and he actually came out and stayed apart from us, but close enough to observe us, when our family was all together on a porch, visiting. That's the first time I've ever seen that happen. We didn't encourage him at all, he did this on his own.
It may have helped that he was not at home.
I do wonder though, if my mil does need to have surgery, if he will come out any more from his shell if he ends up having to spend time up here with his two brothers.
I'll probably have more to write about after our next visit.