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My theme is - Journeying Through the Unknown.
The Unknown Journey is with my brother in law.
Who is my brother in law? I call him "Bil" in this blog.
"Bil" is not easy to know. He doesn't open up easily
to people he doesn't know. It takes him a long time to warm up to
someone. Over the years, I've compiled this top ten list:
Ten Ways to Win Bil's Heart:
1. Accept him for who he is. Of course, isn't that true for everyone?
2. Take him shopping. Bil loves to get out of the house and shop. He
doesn't drive, and doesn't live in walking distance of any shops, so he
is dependent on family to do this for him.
3. Buy him chocolate. Bil loves chocolate.
4. Make him Chicken Divan. I don't know if this recipe is the one his mother uses, but it is quick and easy.
5. Let him follow his routines. For Bil, routines give stability in a world he sometimes finds hard to understand.
6. Turn on The Weather Channel. Why? Because he loves weather,
and he loves weather broadcasters who happen to be female and blonde.
7. Be a New York Mets fan. Because he is a Mets fan, too. He follows
their games, memorizes the scores, and will sometimes, out of nowhere,
asks if they won the night before.
8. Buy him a book he likes, especially at Barnes and Nobles. Science/weather is at the top of his list.
9. Don't bring him into uncomfortable situations. If you have to, it's good if there is a TV nearby. See #6.
10. Don't force him if it can be avoided. (Isn't that true for everyone?) The problem is, sometimes
there are things that have to be done that Bil may not want to do. It
can be so tricky to talk him into doing something like that, like going
to the dentist. Sometimes, I have told him flat out, none of us
always get what we want. The key here, I think, is to "pick your
battles". Ask: does it really matter?
I have a long way to go in understanding my brother in law. But, if we
take the time, we may find an interesting person beneath the layers of
defensive behavior he has built around himself.