Monday, April 24, 2017

Taking The (Measure) #AtoZChallenge

 “If you want to know what a man’s like, take a good look at how he treats his inferiors, not his equals.” – J K Rowling.

I get many chances to witness this, when my husband and I take my autistic brother in law, "Bil", out in public.

He loves to shop, for example.  He has several favorite stores - a drug store, supermarkets, and sometimes, a book store.  He also loves to eat out.

It isn't obvious right away that Bil has many challenges in his life. He can go up to the counter, present his purchase, and pay his money.  Or, in the restaurant, he can read the menu and speak his order.  Bil, unlike some autistic individuals, is verbal.

But if there is any deviation from the routine of paying or ordering, that's where you can see that something isn't right.  Bil will struggle for the right response.  And, his tone of voice is flat.

I've seen many clerks smile when they "get it", but you do get people sometimes that are less than patient.  And that's a shame.

It is so easy to perform small kindnesses.  Kindness is what our world needs a lot more of.

To those who do take the time to be patient with Bil when he is struggling with a rough spot, Thank You.

And, to my readers, new and old, Thank You for joining me on this journey.

My family's unknown journey ahead continues.

5 comments:

  1. It is something I particularly came to understand when my mother was terminally for over 5 years ... I took to looking at others to see where they were at - and yes - one learns to recognise people with challenges ... I am much more aware now and realise that there probably is another side to their lives ... which I was experiencing at the time. Appreciating others' difficulties - if only we could impart this to many others - cheers and thanks to you for writing some aspects of Bil's life for us - Hilary

    http://positiveletters.blogspot.co.uk/2017/04/t-is-for-turkey.html

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    1. Hilary, thank you for joining me on this journey. It means a lot to me.

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  2. Are people really that unkind?
    I mean, there might be so many out there who aren't verbal and shy, poor souls might have such a harrowing time when people don't even make an attempt to understand them.

    A Peice Of My Life

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    1. Sadly, there are people that can be that - not only unkind, but actually hateful.

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