I would be remiss if I don't mention two lifelines for siblings (young and old) of those with disabilities of all types.
SibNet for adults - SibKids for children.
Both are very safe places to gather on line, and talk. To talk about successes, frustrations, and gather information.
If you are a sib-you are not alone. Unlike my husband, who had to "do it alone" there is help now.
Enough of recommendations for now-in my next posts I will be returning to my brother in law.